Are you hurting?
Physically. Mentally. Emotionally.
Are you broken in any of those places?
I see you suffering.
I see you in your painful circumstances-
And I wonder…
How do you treat yourself?
In your darkest, hardest, most painful moments…
What do you say to you?
I have a feeling it’s not nice.
Do you berate yourself? Viciously verbally attacking your suffering body, your ailing mind, your limited abilities with whispers of “What the hell is wrong with me? Why can’t I be well? I suck. I am weak. I hate myself. I don’t deserve ____, I can’t even ____, I’ll never____, Why even try? I wish I was someone else. I give up. ”
When you’re lying in bed, under your blankets, crying in pain, what do you tell yourself?
When you wake up, with sweat saturating your sheets and your mind is twisted into knots of panic…And you simply cannot face this day.
How do you respond?
I’d like you to listen closely to your inner voice. I’d like you to pay attention to how you treat yourself.
You have great power. Do you know that?
You can either surrender to your pain with the comforting whispers of grace or punish who you are with whipping chains of hostility.
Which side do you take in the battle?
Are you on your side?
What weapons do you use to fight the circumstance you’re in?
I fear you are under attack, and your enemy is you.
Are you holding yourself captive in loathing who you are?
In your weakest state, do you wage war with a vicious vengeance on the innocent, unarmed, wounded warrior that is you?
I see you on the battlefield…
Your fleet is self destruction. Your army, self defeat. The terrain has endless possibilities to expose the fragile vulnerabilities awaiting capture in the prison of your hate.
You need to know this.
I need you to understand something.
You do not deserve to be under attack when you are at your weakest.
You do not deserve your hate.
It’s downright brutal.
And the war you started is futile.
And no one will rescue you…
Don’t you see that you are the only you- you will ever have in this life?
You must learn to love yourself. All of you. Every broken piece of you.
You must learn to fight your battle, your burden, your bully-
With SELF LOVE.
Please stop hating yourself.
Cradle yourself in compassion.
Soak yourself in sweet surrender.
Release your choking grip of taunting your tainted self.
And open your heart to:
Gentle whispers of reassurance.
Newfound hope in believing that you are worth fighting for.
You are worthy of relentless kindness, patience, and respect.
You can find sustenance in lovingly stroking your hurts, your wounds, your limitations with the delicate and deliberate decisions you take each and every day to care for yourself-
With unfailing love.
Realize this pain, this suffering, this brokenness is not your choice.
You are fighting this fight.
Please do it with love, not hate.
You can choose to live in agonizing anger or generous grace.
You alone must choose to love yourself- unconditionally.
No strings attached.
No needless pressure with bars held too high.
No threats, shame, or relentless regrets.
That is not love.
That is not love.
Love stands alone.
It does not compare.
It has no stipulations.
No measurements, requirements, or qualifications.
True love is unfailing.
It’s existence is a guarantee.
A never-ending, enduring promise.
You must love yourself with no bars, no barriers, no boundaries.
Pure love has none.
Do you love yourself?
No one else can live your life.
No one else has been given a life like yours.
You are a unique creation.
Your existence is like no other.
This life is yours alone-
How will you choose to define it?
How will you choose to define you?
You alone, can honor who you are and define your worth.
You alone, can acknowledge your strength, your perseverance, your gifts.
Remind yourself that your battle is half won, when you choose to triumph in your own war within.
Every day you must surrender the hate and place it where it should be placed.
On your pain, your burden, your plight.
And embrace the you who endures the hard fight.
Praise the you, who walks the road to freedom while living in limitations.
Freedom from self hate.
There’s nothing more liberating.
No one else needs your love more than you.
Especially when you are grasping at life with everything you got.
I promise you, your journey will be much easier to bear when YOU are on your side.
No matter your pain…
The greatest gift you could ever receive
Isn’t healing or changing or restoration.
It’s learning the true definition of love-
It’s in discovering Self Love.
And holding on to it for life.
This life is hard.
Believe me, please.
There’s a better way to battle through the hard parts.
Love yourself through it.
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