I have learned of so many mothers who have lost their babies. My heart aches for these moms. In the quiet of the night, I pray for them. I can’t even begin to understand the depths of their despair or the trauma that shakes their souls. There are some moms who have spent earthly time with their beloved children before losing them. There are others who only held their babies for a moment before their hearts were broken in pieces.
I just can’t imagine that kind of pain.
Please, let me try to comfort you the only way I know how. Whether you believe in Heaven or not, your child is there. Your child is full of light and love and is dancing with God and all the other angels. To you, this child is wrapped in sadness and grief. But your child shines like a star in the darkness… knowing eternity is real. Your Hell is here on earth, living without. But this time here is short, compared to the time you will spend dancing with your beloved in Heaven. Eternity is where you will find your hope.
My dear friend inspired me to write this poem, having lost her precious baby girl. I am sure she wouldn’t mind if I shared. (I adjusted a few things) I’m not even sure it helped her in any way. I don’t know if this is any kind of provision for mothers who have suffered loss or not. I just had to try…
Praying for you, dear moms. You will see your angels. And you will live an eternity with them soon…
“Hush little angel don’t you cry
Mama still can see you in the sky
Your family, how they miss you
Your daddy wants to play fun games with you.
Now little darling, keep that smile
And dance up there in Heaven for a while
And when it’s time to join you, we will be
Our perfect, happy little family.
My little one, how you have grown
Oh, how the years have come and gone
We are growing too now can you see
All of the people in your family?
Now run and skip and hop away
And know we will be with you someday
And in our darkness, help us see
Us together for eternity.
Oh little angel you do shine
In our hearts and in our minds
Keep your light so bright and true
And know how deeply we love you.”
This is beautiful. I hope I never have to feel this pain. It breaks my heart to know that others do. Thanks for sharing!
Thanks so much Jennifer. I can’t imagine it either. If you know of anyone who has suffered such a loss, will you pass this on? Thanks!!
Having had two miscarriages and having mourned deeply both times, I cannot even concieve what it must feel like to hold your baby and then lose your baby. My heart aches deeply for those who have had to endure this kind of pain. God is the great Comforter. He wants to hold those as they mourn and feel that pain.
I heard a song many years ago at the time my sister-in-lawgave birth to twins. They were 2 months premature. One baby never came home from the hospital. The thought from the song that helped me deal with why these things happen says “God weeps, too.” He is deeply grieved over the fallen nature of this world and all the death and distruction that comes with it. In the Bible, it does say that Jesus wept over the pain the people had to endure as they mourned the loss of their loved one, Lazarus. Jesus’ heart is moved and deeply saddened by these things. Our hearts long for what we know is missing here on earth…peace and everlasting life.
You are right, Chris. Those babies are in Heaven. They are with the Lord and they are whole. We can be with them some day, too. God eagerly awaits the turning of our hearts toward Him so we can be in Heaven, too, for eternity, made whole, just like those sweet beloved babies.
Yes yes yes… the hope lies in Him. Praying that all moms know God and His mercies and His love as they struggle to find any peace with their grief. I am so sorry you too, have suffered so much loss. Thanks you for your loving and wise words Kimberly!
You know how I feel about this poem, Chris. It is beautiful. I wish I didn’t know how it felt but sadly, I do. Your words are a huge comfort to me. I will be sharing this. Thank you.
Thank you SO much for being my sounding board for this post AnnMarie. I knew you would be honest and I felt comfortable sharing it with you for some reason. It must be our special kind of friendship… Oh, how I wish you didn’t have to suffer this kind of pain. Now if only I could hug you…
Thank you for posting this! I can’t even imagine this. Only with God’s help could I get through that.
Yes, that would be the only way I could survive life on this earth. I truly cannot imagine the pain of the loss of a child. I LOVE seeing your comment here, Sandy! Thank you so very much!!! I am so grateful for your support in my passion…
Absolutely beautiful Chris! My heart goes out to all parents who have lost children young and old. I have friends who have lost babies, either through miscarriage or SIDS and teenagers in the prime of their lives. My heart aches for them. I lost my mother a few years ago. She always said she wanted her kids to outlive her and when I became a mother, I knew exactly what she meant! In a way, even though I lost my mom, I’m glad her wish came true. Thanks for sharing Chris!
I believe those friends of yours and of mine that have lost a child are true warriors. I cannot imagine the battle of pain and grief they must have to endure through their lives. I get your mother’s wish. I. get. that. I’m sure it’s every mother’s wish… Grateful she had hers!
I can not imagine the pain, and I pray I never have to deal with it. A mother’s worst nightmare. The poem you shared is beautiful.
Yes. I cannot imagine that pain either. I struggled to come up with the words to this post… I really felt a need to at least address this kind of loss. So many women go through it. Their strength amazes me. Thank you for reading. So grateful!
Absolutely beautiful, Chris. So beautiful.
I can’t even think about this topic without feeling like my breath is being taken away. I can’t begin to imagine what it’s like to live with a grief like that. My prayers are going out right now to all those who do. –Lisa
Thanks so much Lisa. I know… I want to do so much more for them, but all I can do is pray. Thanks for your your prayers for these amazing women too.
Just beautiful! So heartwarming and emotional! WOW!
Thanks so much dear dear friend!! Hoping you got yourself an AMAZING cup of coffee this morning! Praying for you…
Having miscarried myself and knowing so many others who have as well the words of a song by Watermark brought a beautiful picture for my heart to dwell on:
Glory Baby
“Heaven will hold you before we do
Heaven will keep you close until we’re home with you.
But we miss you everyday, we miss you in every way
We can’t wait for the day when we will see you,
And you’ll kiss our tears away….”
Beuatiful lyrics!!!! I bet the song is amazing. Thanks so much for sharing that Tammy! My heart breaks for the women I know who have lost a child…
Beautiful and heartbreaking.
Thank you for reading Alison… heartbreaking. Yes. I’m sure you know friends who have lost. Just can’t imagine…
Beautiful poem, Chris! I’m sure you brought some peace to those who have lost with your words. There is no greater grief than the loss of a child, at least not one I can imagine. May those that experience this kind of loss feel Gods arms wrapped around them.
Thanks so much. I can only pray and hope they feel God’s arms around them. I just can’t imagine… I think I would fight the rage inside, and the deepest pain/grief to battle. May God meet them there.
Lovely, heartbreaking, humbling. {Truly}
Thank you Galit, for taking the time to read and comment. Means the world to me…
Because I’m working, I had to breeze through the lyrics. Just reading this post reminds me that my kids are right now miles away. Part of me wants to go take them out of school and park it on the couch with them for the rest of the day.
Yes…I know that feeling well. We are so damn lucky to have them. Period.
This is really beautiful, and with your permission, I would like to post your poem on my blog? Jennifer (Another Jennifer blog) told me about this post, and I’m so glad she did. I saw it circulate a few days before she told me about it, but I didn’t find the time to view it.
In December I became one of those mothers to hold my daughter in my arms as the life left her tiny body. She lived for two days, but had been so ill from the complications due to Twin to Twin Transfusion Syndrome (TTTS). Her twin, thankfully survived, although we spent 12 weeks in the NICU. I deal with the pain and grief, and do my best to spread awareness about TTTS on my blog No Holding Back at http://www.noholdingback1212.com
Again, thank you for this beautiful tribute to those of us who have been through this pain.
Alexa
Oh Alexa, I am so deeply sorry for all you have been through and continue to endure! I would absolutely LOVE for you to share it anywhere you want to if you feel it would serve as an encouragement in some way. Please, do what you want with it! It was written for you, new friend. I will be praying for you and interestingly enough, my friend who also suffered a loss…lost her twin babygirl. I will read more about this as it makes me wonder about her babies and what happened. (One survived) I may have even visited your site, because it sounds familiar. Please let me know if I can do anything, I mean anything else at all. My heart aches for you and so many who have to suffer without their babies in this world. God bless you Alexa.
Thank you so very much! 🙂 Yes, I would be interested to know if your friend also went through TTTS. We have support groups and are a very tightly knit group.
You’re are so welcome. I am so glad you came by my site to read it. I will definately check in with my friend and see about that. What a wonderful mission you have found! So glad you have good support Alexa. 🙂
{Melinda} So beautiful! This hits home for me. A sweet friend of mine — who has miscarried and fought infertility — recently found out, at the age of 43, that she was finally pregnant! Then, at 13 weeks, they got devastating news. Their sweet little one has fetal cystic hygroma and severe chromosomal abnormalities. The baby has large cysts forming on his/her head and throughout the body. It will not survive to term. They are heartbroken, but relying on God to sustain them through this painful journey. Their names are Sandy and Chris … please say a prayer for them. Thank you!
Oh Melinda, this just breaks my heart to hear about your friend’s tragic misfortune!!! I will surely be praying for them!!! It’s hearing these stories that I wonder in the pit of my soul…”WHY???? Why do those beautiful people who want a child so badly, have to face this awful fate??” And yet, there are millions of unwanted babies all over the world. Devestates me. I am just so sorry…
Hope I never know the pain
Yes…I know. And yet, there are so many out there grieving the loss of a child. It continues to break my heart and ache deeply in my soul. I know some of these women….these amazingly strong and passionate women. I continue to pray for them daily, not just the ones I know- but all mothers everywhere. May they find peace in “eternity”…
Crying….my heart breaks for those mothers.
I know it does. I know this hits close to home for you. Melinda read it. I still pray for her all the time, and countless other moms who have suffered this kind of loss. Sigh…